This is in response to MissDawn's writing, Just Stop and Breath and Take Your Time.
MissDawn wrote an excellent piece, a bit of an angry rant though, but a very valid one, on why new people on the scene need to slow down. Perhaps because I am just me, I was never a Julie, a new person on the scene who wants to take on everything and do everything.
My interest in BDSM fostered over the years before I actually took a step forward and started playing. Of course, I did immediately seek out a long-term play partner. We spent a lot of time talking. He was more experienced and I turned out to be a natural. Soon, I was breathing domination.
Here is a piece of advice for those Julies out there. Stop and breathe.
For the Doms out there, you do not need to know how to do everything at first. Anyone on the scene long enough knows that mastery over a play or technique takes time. And it is better to do one thing well for your submissive than to do a dozen things not well. BDSM can be physically, mentally and psychologically challenging. Do not be irresponsible and run the risk of hurting your sub. Depth and mastery are really very very important here.
For the submissives out there, take the time to explore each kink/fetish well. It is not just one scene. It is not even just one Dom. A kink can be spinned 365 ways in the hands of a right Dom. Plays can be incorporated together into a scene and then taken apart for reassembly. If you really feel like you have to do something, then go out and meet a lot of people through organizations and event. Give yourself the chance to meet the right partner. Because, believe me, finding the right partner makes all the difference in the world.
For everyone else, the same thing applies. Focus and learn well before you expand.