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24/7 - A D/s relationship that is integrated into the normal lives of Master or Mistress and slave and is in effect at all times. Also known as TPE or Total Power Exchange.
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Aftercare - An important step after a scene to ensure all participants, Dom and sub, reorients to reality. This is especially necessary after an intense scene where endorphins run high and either or both Dom and sub may experience physical or emotional reactions afterward. Basic aftercare include food, water, rest, cloth, comfort and absence of noise and bright lights.
B
BDSM - Acronym of Bondage & Discipline, Domination & submission, Sadism & Masochism.
D
Damsel in distress - A submissive with serious emotional problems, who may need professional counseling or take time to process trauma before engaging in a productive relationship.
D/s - Acronym of Domination & submission.
E
Emotional domination - A form of domination where the submissive is made to feel humiliation, fear, shame (negative) or joy and happiness (positive). See Psychological domination
F
Financial domination - A form of domination where the submissive shows his submission through giving money and gifts. The extent of financial domination may vary from submissive giving Master or Mistress tributes to Master or Mistress taking over all assets under the submissive's name, paying the submissive bills and expenses and giving submissive an allowance. A written consent form is required.
H
Hard limit - Something that a participant will absolutely not do. A hard limit should never be pushed by another participant.
Hypnosis - A state of focused concentration where suggestions and new ideas can be easily absorbed. This may be used in mental domination. A written consent form is required.
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Impact play - A play that involves striking the submissive with various objects, such as hand, riding crop, flogger, paddle, whips and canes.
Interrogation play - A form of mental play where the submissive is orally questioned and made to answer or explain him- or herself to the Dom.
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Julie - A new person on the scene who is eager to try everything and do everything.
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Limits - What a participant, whether Dom or submissive, will not do (hard limit) or is reluctant to do (soft limit).
M
Mental domination - A form of domination where the Dom takes control and manipulates the submissive's mental state, sometimes to create confusion or to further submission.
Mindfuck - A form of mental domination where the Dom plays with submissive's concept of reality or right and wrong among others.
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Physical domination - A form of domination where the Dom trains the submissive to be and act a certain way physically.
Psychological domination - A form of domination where the Dom alters the psychological condition of the submissive. See Mental domination.
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Safeword - A word or gesture that is agreed upon by the Dom and sub to signal the stop of a BDSM scene.
Sexual domination - A form of domination where the Master or Mistress controls the sexual activities of the submissive. Sexual domination may include chastity devices such as chastity belt or cock cage as well as orgasm control or denial.
Soft limit - Something that the participant will consent to doing with great reluctance and/or strict restrictions. Soft limits can be pushed with caution, care and finesse with the use of a safeword in a scene.
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TPE or Total Power Exchange - A D/s relationship where the Master or Mistress has total control over the submissive or slave at all times. Also known as 24/7